October 23, 2018

Snaps His Neck Looking

Dear Frankly, I have been seeing a man over a year. He is caring, affectionate, communicative, yet he looks at and comments on other women. When we are out and an attractive woman walks by he almost snaps his neck looking. He never says anything crude but he’ll quietly say “Wow!” I hate it. He listens patiently when I tell him how much it hurts, but he continues to do it. I don’t want to be jealous, yet I can’t help the way I feel. Would you help me? Disturbed Darlene Dear Disturbed, Years ago I’d suggest you play grab-ass…

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Frankly Fanny

Dear Frankly, Throughout my dating life, I have always been the one-man kind of woman, even when I am just dating casually. Recently, I started seeing three different men, two local guys, and one who lives out of state. Should I inform each that I am seeing other men? We all are dating casually, but I find it quite awkward to bring it up while on a date. I have not lied to any of them, but I don’t want to cause any major misunderstandings. What should I do? Secretive Sheila Dear Secretive, It would appear you lack the understanding…

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Frankly Fanny . . . by Herself

Dear Frankly: My husband-to-be tried to explain what male sex drive is, but i don’t think I understand what he means. Isn’t it the same as the female sex drive? If not, how are they different? Please answer as quickly as possible. Our wedding is coming up next month and I want to be prepared. Curious Constance Dear Curious: As with the gradual and sequential development of the physical sex drive, as the psychological and social aspects of the sex drive are established in both men and women over different periods of time. Or, to put it in laywoman terms,…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I’ve been involved with a woman for 6 years. We helped each other through difficult times, always there for each other. I love her very much. A while back she left to visit her father. While there, she met another man and fell in love with him. She says they are soul mates. Since returning, the man has not called her. He did send her a ring, she called him once, and they talked. She says she thinks of him constantly. I am confused. What should I do? Stymied Steve Dear Stymied: Obviously you two have never consummated…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I am a very giving person. I enjoy helping others and seeing the smiles on their faces. I have a boyfriend that I feel is taking advantage of my generosity. He recently asked me to walk his dog while he went to a party without me. He then called later to ask me to let him out again that night, as he was running late. Then he asked me to watch him for a couple of days while he went out of town. I really like this guy, but think I am being used. Should I stay with…

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Dear Frankly: Whenever I’m in a situation where I talk with girls I get all hot, sweaty and embarrassed. I can’t even look them in the eye. I feel like I don’t have control of the situation. I go to the washroom a lot just to look in the mirror to make sure I look all right. I generally have this problem around all strangers (also when public speaking) but never as bad as when I’m trying to talk with girls. Around my friends, I am a totally different. Is there something wrong with me? Disturbed Dennis Dear Distressed: My…

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Frankly Fanny, by Herself

Dear Frankly: I wrote to another advice columnist and didn’t appreciate her answer, so I though I would give you a try. I complained that my husband of a few years was a slob and didn’t pick up after himself, not even clearing the dishes. I, on the other hand, am neat and orderly. A place for everything and everything in its place, I say. Anyway, this other columnist said I was at fault for being a clean freak and shared the blame with my slob husband. What do you think? Distressed Denise Dear Distressed: Being someone who likes things…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I have read many of your advice columns throughout the years. You often offer confusing and conflicting advice regarding life-long commitment. I am a 31-year-old male who has never been married. If I followed some people’s advice I would still be a virgin and never have had an emotionally significant relationship with a woman. More and more people today are postponing marriage. Does this mean they should not have significant relationships or sex? Disturbed Donnie Dear Disturbed: I would never deny anyone of pursuing a healthy relationship that included making love. Casual sex is one thing, but meaningful…

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Frankly Fanny . . . by Herself

Dear Frankly: I am happy to maintained a close friendship since childhood. I recently discovered my best friend’s husband is cheating on her with a neighbor of mine. I see him with her often during the weekday. My friend has wonderful children and I hesitate to be the one who disturbs the peace. Maybe she’s better of status quo. Should I tell my friend and chance that she would want to know? I am at my wits end. What do you think I should do? Troubled Theresa Dear Troubled: You are privy to first hand information that your friend’s husband…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I have met a great guy at work. He’s sweet, good- looking and nice to talk to. I am completely in love with him.  I wish we were “closer.” We had one date recently. A past love interest of his is now available again. I am worried about the future of our relationship. I want to jump in with both feet. But I am afraid of being the odd woman out in a love triangle. Perhaps he really is through with her. However, I cannot be sure. What do you advise I do next?       Confused Claire Dear…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I am having trouble defining the difference between love and lust. My family tells me that I fall for every guy that comes my way. I tell them that I love each man differently. When they ask me what it is about them that I love, I don’t really have much to say. They tell me that it isn’t love, it is lust. I do have relations with them, but that isn’t what makes me love them. I will usually date them for a year or so, then for one reason or another, we split up. Is that…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: There is a woman I like, but she has a boyfriend. He plays on a team with me and he and I get along real well. She asked me out and I said that I would go. I asked her about her relationship with her boyfriend. She said it was on again off again and did not know where it was going. I don’t really know what she wants from me. We are from different races but it doesn’t seem to matter to her. I don’t know whether she is serious or not. What should I do?      …

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I am involved with a guy I used to date in high school. He is recently divorced and has three children. I am also divorced with two kids of my own. He loves to talk about his kids. One night while alone he said that I was his first love and he always has loved me. He says he never really loved his ex. He is a good man and cares for the kids while I am at work. He treats me like a queen. I am hoping this love will last. Could he still love me after…

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Frankly Fanny . . . by Herself

Dear Frankly: I have been married for more than 10 years now. We have both been faithful, but my husband recently bought some cologne with pheromones in it to  see if it would attract women. He said it’s more of an experiment to see if it really works. He also said it would be nice to have women look twice at him. It would make him feel attractive. I am worried he no longer finds me attractive and is getting a roving eye. Should I be concerned about this?       Faithful Felicia Dear Faithful: You’ve got to be kidding me….

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I hope you can help me. I am involved in a relationship and I don’t trust my partner. We have been together almost 9 months and I am now 8 months pregnant by him. I know that I really didn’t take enough time to get to  know him. That was my fault. I have fallen in love with him, but I am not sure how to let him know that I don’t trust him without seeming rude or mean about it. Should I wait until our child is born or confront him with it now?       Doubting Darla…

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Frankly Fanny, by Herself

Dear Frankly: I’m a college student and I’ve lived with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have decided to move home for the summer and live elsewhere when school begins next semester. I am breaking this off because we just are not getting along. The problem is he owes me about $1000.00 in back rent and loans. I have stuck around because I knew that if I left he’d never repay me. I still love him but he is no good for me. I want my money back but I need out of this relationship. Can you please help me?…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I’ve been divorced from my ex-wife for nearly twelve years. Over the last five years or so, I have grown fond of, and enjoy the relationship I have formed with her cousin. We are very much in love, but, she feels uncomfortable because we are still cousins by my previous marriage and she is still related to my children. I am too emotionally invested to just be friends with her. I am in love. Am I doing the right thing by pursuing this affair?      Stumped Steven Dear Stumped: Love is love. If you were in the deep…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

Dear Frankly: I was dating the same guy for 4 years. He meant absolutely everything to me, and we’ve done a lot together, college, camp counselors, taken wonderful vacations. I was so in love. We even planned to be married. In the past few months, he’s left me feeling neglected. He stopped doing all the romantic things he used to do. We decided to take a break. I am seeing someone who I know likes me and I’m definitely interested. Am I doing the right thing?      Bewildered Barbara Dear Bewildered: People shouldn’t invite you expecting a gift. But if…

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Frankly Fanny by Herself

                Dear Frankly: I have been dating a woman with three children for a little over a year. I’ve been invited to go with her to her sister’s wedding. I thought we’d go in together on a gift.  She told me that she and two of her kids already bought a gift. She says I have to get her sister a present by myself which at least equals the cost of my meal at the wedding reception. I feel excluded and wish she had consulted me first. What should I do?      Puzzled…

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